You can
read Part 1 here. Moving on to Part 2...
Be Honest About What You Are Capable Of
I think this is the most critical element to consider. Bringing along a
young horse can seem like it would be similar to riding an older horse,
just "doing less." That it would consist of just riding straight lines
& big circles & going over smaller jumps. After some
period of time, you then increase the complexity of your requests
& the horse will figure it out. At least that's the vague idea I
had in my head a long time ago.
It's not until you are
in the trenches that you realize it's up to you to figure out how to
explain to this giant creature that doesn't speak English, yet is still
very capable of sharing its opinion of you (
sometimes using distinctly obscene language),
exactly how to arrange its body in response to your wiggling around on
its back. And because you are supposed to be captain of this voyage, if
you can't explain things clearly enough, your equine crewmember will,
at best, make his own navigation decisions, or at worst, stage a mutiny.
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Solo believes in clear warnings of impending mutiny (2008) |
This has been the biggest challenge for me:
knowing when to push & when to step back.
When to let it go & try again another day versus when to insist on
a little more effort. And this isn't a decision made just
once in a ride. Rather it's 10 or 50 moments throughout each ride where
you have a split second to choose a fork in the road. And I'll just go
ahead & tell you: you're going to make a forkin' mess
sometimes.
Which is why it's also important to try
& stack the deck in your favour ahead of time. When you buy the
horse, look hardest at his brain & his nature & find the
type most compatible with you. Horses are forgiving creatures in
general, but some are more patient about it then others. I knew I was
going to be working with this horse mostly on my own & I needed
something kind & safe, that wasn't going to
throw me on the ground if I offended him.
You also need to be brutally honest about your skillset. I was 99% (
hey, I'm a scientist, I'm not capable of stating anything at 100%)
confident that I now had the tools, thanks to wonderful instructors,
clinicians, countless hours of watching other trainers, reading, talking
to so many of you out there, & my own experimentation, to
safely bring along a good-natured young horse. I was certain that I
could train said horse to be a consistent & responsive riding
partner not just for me, but others as well. That is to say, I've
already made a lot of dumb mistakes & learned the hard hard hard
hard way.
This includes knowing multiple "roads to
Rome," meaning that I have learned alternate ways to communicate the same
concept, because different horses learn differently, just like humans.
It also includes having access to help: I know there are still plenty
of things I DON'T know &
I consider one of my greater strengths to be recognizing when I'm out of my depth.
No one knows it all & it's only fair to you & the horse
that you explore different perspectives when you hit a snag. Because
there will be plenty of snags.
You absolutely do not
have to do it all yourself either! I chose this partly because I wanted
it & partly because, well, I can't afford the alternative (
but it's important that the latter is NOT the primary decision driver). A different road is to work closely with a trainer who is good with young horses (
do make this qualifier a critical criteria in choosing said trainer).
If you are an adult amateur, I would say to you -- if you can't look
yourself in the eye & know that you have a well-stocked training
toolbox, PAY THAT TRAINER. It doesn't make you a lesser person or say
anything about you at all other than you are a rational adult who makes
smart choices so you can be safe & happy!
You
also get to decide how involved you want to be in that training. Maybe
you just want to hop on a finished horse on the other side, which is
fine. Maybe you want to take the opportunity to develop your own
toolbox & have the trainer train you to train, which is also
fine. Maybe you want to be anywhere in the wide, wide middle area
between those two options, which, guess what, is also totally fine!
The
over-arching message, of course, is
being honest with yourself. The
incentive to do so lies in the high stakes: it's your time, your money (
well, for those of us spending our own paychecks),
your happiness, & most importantly, your safety & the
safety & well-being of your horse. You don't have to publish it
online or tell anyone else your verdict, except the voices in your head.
Because one of the
tenets of this blog has always been honesty, I will say this: I don't
regret my young horse, who was still a long 3-year-old when I bought him
& is now 5. I went in knowing I still had plenty to learn. I
was not wrong. There have been many, many times of frustration, even a
few tears. There have been times where I said, "
What was I thinking?" There have even been some times where I was tired & I wanted to give up. I have little doubt there will be more of all those times.
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Like when he slit his own throat & needed stitches in 2018 |
Two
things have held me to my course. One is fairly petty, but effective
-- I told myself I would be so mad if I sold this horse, knowing the
potential he has, & then saw someone being wildly successful
with him just because they were a little more patient or persistent then
me. Hey, self-guilt sometimes works.
The second is
what I really care about. I know this horse is teaching me, &
will continue to teach me, even more skills to add to my toolbox.
Because he is so different than Solo & Encore, I have to adapt
to his needs. For example, I've never dealt with a horse who is prone to curl up
behind the bit, but I'll never learn how to unless I do it.
Bringing it back to the point that many of you probably already knew, but bears repeating nonetheless: young horses are not for everyone. Just like hot horses
& draft horses & mini horses & foals &
mares & geldings & every equine on the planet. AND
THAT'S OK. Choosing the equine partner who is right for you involves
its own brand of informed consent. I hope this helps you go in with
eyes open a little wider.